“It’s a little too much”. A little confused, she replied saying everyone told her it was okay before she left the home. In response to this, I said they were probably just being nice, and that she should get more good people around her than nice ones. She then asked me, “What’s the difference?”
I’ve observed that the fundamental problem has barely been touched by anyone in the Achraf Hakimi divorce case. We barely have enough credible information to make most of the judgments I’ve seen online, so I’ll focus on something I have enough information on.
Even though the outcome of a marriage mostly comes down to personal responsibility, there’s also this ghostly penumbra cast by the legal system that we so frequently fail to acknowledge, especially for Western marriages. In the last few decades, the institution of marriage has been transformed from a sacred institution that provided stability and meaning, to a financial tug of war which mostly has men at the losing end. The Ebue, Cisse’ and recently Hakimi cases aren’t isolated
When the brother of the girl who is alleged to have committed suicide (because of a cheating partner or a breakup) reached out to the public for financial assistance needed to cover the cost of taking the case to a court of law, it sparked a lot of reactions. Most of these reactions were lacking in empathy, and they seem to have little knowledge of how grief works and even less understanding of why some sense of justice
¹”If the Queen had apologized for slavery, colonialism and neocolonialism and urged the crown to offer reparation for the millions of lives taken in her/their names, then perhaps I would do the human thing and feel bad. As a Kenyan, I feel nothing. This theater is absurd.” ²“My uncle was deaf. He was asked…
The importance of food to man cannot be overlooked. You don’t have to be a foodie to start worrying about the food on your table or the absence of certain foods. Food comes with its dilemmas; the absence or insufficiency of it poses a problem as well as the abundance of it. This explains why…
I watched a video on “Big Think” that made me reflect on the Mboko Gang vs King Kong gang, IPhone vs Samsung Galaxy, BMW vs Audi, Nike vs Adidas, Davido vs Wizkid, and Ronaldo vs Messi brand rivalries, just to name but these. Brands influenced our behavior in ways that extend far beyond the point…
It’s difficult to have control over many things today. Even having control over your space is getting more and more difficult. Before, one had to worry about calls from numbers, persistent beeps and late and early calls which weren’t emergencies. Video calls have made interactions more fluid and life-like, but this has come with its…
March 08th, International Women’s Day, is an important day worldwide. It’s a day reserved for the woman to examine, and also to reassert herself by impacting change/progress in the society for the betterment of the girl child, women and humanity in general. In this vein, women in their groups (and at individual levels) do everything…
Few months back I was traveling from the war torn North West to the equally war torn South West region of Cameroon and something that is very common happened; I am a frequent traveler. This made me remember the many other past incidents. A young man stopped our vehicle; he was well armed and…
It’s one of those moments when an event draws the world’s attention — the death of a charismatic and magnificent personality. Archbishop Emeritus Desmond M. Tutu and Nobel Prize Laureate was a South African Anglican bishop and theologian. One of the things that defined him was his work as an anti-apartheid and human rights…