I noticed a friend who looked so uncomfortable at a party. I asked what the problem was and she said she wasn’t okay with the looks she was getting from everyone. I told her it was probably the make-up and “It’s a little too much”. A little confused, she replied saying everyone told her it was okay before she left the home. In response to this, I said they were probably just being nice, and that she should get more good people around her than nice ones. She then asked me, “What’s the difference?”
- If you have to be a nice person all the time. It’s okay, but it will definitely compromise your honesty at some point.
- If you have to be a good person all the time, it’d keep your honesty in check but it will also make you quite a disagreeable person at some point.
- When you’re honest in your criticisms, your compliments tend to hold more value.
- When you’re always being nice even in your criticisms, your compliments tend to hold little value because people will inadvertently think you’re just trying to be nice.
- Being around nice people will make you feel comfortable for a while, but being around good people gives you huge growth potential.
I think it’s best to find a balance between being good and being nice where applicable. But if I had to go one way, I’d pick being good over being nice.