I noticed a friend who looked so uncomfortable at a party. I asked what the problem was and she said she wasn’t okay with the looks she was getting from everyone. I told her it was probably the make-up and “It’s a little too much”. A little confused, she replied saying everyone told her it was okay before she left the home. In response to this, I said they were probably just being nice, and that she should get more good people around her than nice ones. She then asked me, “What’s the difference?”
Generally speaking:
- If you have to be a nice person all the time. It’s okay, but it will definitely compromise your honesty at some point.
- If you have to be a good person all the time, it’d keep your honesty in check but it will also make you quite a disagreeable person at some point.
- When you’re honest in your criticisms, your compliments tend to hold more value.
When you’re always being nice even in your criticisms, your compliments tend to hold little value because people will inadvertently think you’re just trying to be nice.
- Being around nice people will make you feel comfortable for a while, but being around good people gives you huge growth potential.
I think it’s best to find a balance between being good and being nice where applicable. But if I had to go one way, I’d pick being good over being nice.
